Any way a question popped into my head a moment ago: why are parents so bothersome and specifically in a person's teenage years? I think it's because teenagers have a much larger caliber of maturity, or at least feel like they do, than their parents give them credit for. This being said, think about it, parents love and care for their children for about 12-14 years and then a rapid change in self awareness occurs in the teenager. The way an adult treats their teenager doesn't change as fast as the kid's maturity builds. Of course there's the old acceptance that teens are just troublesome but that's just another lack of respect being given to teenagers because it writes off the value of their emotions as one would with a child crying because they didn't get to eat candy before dinner. That's a subtle way of being very offensive which the parent doesn't understand and the teenager doesn't know how to express. Also, being a teenager involves many trials of getting used to the way your mind functions and sometimes adults expect teenagers to automatically be able to function with the sophistication of an adult. It doesn't work like that but sometimes teenagers feel that they do function with the sophistication of an adult and that their parents are just being stupid. It doesn't work like that either. But if both sides were willing to have leniency with each other and if both sides fully realized the true amount of change and how difficult it is for each other to go through this stressful age of life then I personally believe that a significantly more healthy relationship would arise. But most of the time no one tries thinking from the opposing side of their conflict, and no one finds peace in their home for a long time. But sometimes they do. I sure as hell don't claim to have found peace with my parents, if I tried to tell my dad any of this he'd blow it off and tell me that I'm wrong, let me know what he thinks, and that his opinion is right over mine more than likely. Even if he wouldn't, I don't feel like going through that 3 hour conversation anytime soon. But I know a little bit more about the big picture than I think he does, and because of that I can let a lot more frustration roll off my back. Or at least enough to make it to my 18th birthday and a college dorm that they don't live in. That's good enough for me.
